Marion, i don’t know what i would have done without you over the last week, you really sorted my head out!

Thank you so much for the advice you gave me Judith. You really helped and i am feeling so much better.

I would just like to say thanks to Carl for all the advice and support he has offered me, it has been good to get another mans view on my problem

Arthur

hey there. i really need your help. i’ve just found out that i am 19 weeks pregnant with my ex boyfriends baby. We broke up about 2 weeks ago, due to the fact it wasnt working out. I was devestated and pulled myself together.
I noticed one day that i had started developing a bump, but i thought i wasnt pregnant as im still having periods. I still took a test yday and it came back positive.
I dont want to tell my ex as he will go mad. Im so scared, but an abortion is out of the question. Please help me xxx

Hi there,
I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time but you really need to talk to someone. Why don’t you log in so that you can have a private chat with one of the Agony Aunts.
I think it would really help you.

Hiyaa ive just found im five weeks pregnant by my ex ive all ready told him but im only 17 so i dont know what to do :/ i really need your help because hes on drugs Please help

Hi,
Bless you, you must feel very confused right now. Please log in and have a confidential chat with one of the agony aunts. They will be able to talk to you and give you advice and places that may be able to help your ex too.

Hello there-

I have a problem that I would like to have some advice about. I hope you can help…with thanks

Hi there, I’m sure we can help you! Just log in and choose an agony aunt/uncle to talk to and they will talk through your problem with you.

Thank you for talking to me Judith. I felt really alone and stupid but you really talked sense and i feel loads better.
Thank you

i really need some one to talk to . im so confused and emotional about it all . please help !

Hi Lea
Please come and have a chat with one of the agony aunts or uncle here i feel talking will help you

Admin

Hi there,

I am struggling to come to terms with my sexuality – I think I am gay, I would really like somebody to talk to about this, it is getting me down.

So damn depresed, no friebds to talk to, pissed off at the world and myself, a holes keep pushin me to the edge an i dont like it. feels like a time bomb bout to go off………

Hi sg
Come and have a chat with one of the agony aunts or uncle here,even if it is just to get things off your chest

Hi Simon
Dont sit there struggling on your own come and have a chat with the agony aunts, Im sure they can help you feel better in yourself

dear agnoy aunt i dont no what to do for the best because i had a best friend he in his 30s and im in my early 20s and we did everything toughter we would meet up and then i split up with my boyfriend then i met the one and i got married he was best man at our wedding everything went fine then couple weeks later he would get jelous of my marriage and he would be nasty about my hubby and would not give him a chance then i had text from my best mate saying i wish u married me not him he never told me how he felt me my best mate fell out few times over this then everything went back to how it was and then he started on my hubby i havent spoken to my best mate for few months now and i dont no what to do people say to me dont give him a chance coss everytime i do he upsets me but he was like family to me and he wont even speak to me now huuby says forget him but he was part of my life for so long i just cant forget him and my best mate have really hurt me and my hubby we getting on with our lives now but mabye my best friend was lonley thats why he did it i just dont no lisa x

Hi Lisa
It sounds like he feels like he is missing your company now you are married.Come and have a chat with the agony aunts they will be able to give you advice about how to deal with this

My friend is very unhappy with her life at the moment and seems to be pushing me away when she can’t cope. What can I say to make her feel better?

Hi Worried Friend
It is good that you are standing by her just let her know you are there if she wants to talk.Tell her about Instant Agony Aunt she may be able to open up to a stranger than talk things over with her close friend.

my mum is always picking on me saying how i favour my dad and his girlfriend. she never says these things to my sister though its makeing me very unhappy. i feel like my mum Hates me!.

Sorry that you’re feeling unhappy. It is difficult when parents split up and find new partners. It must be strange for your mum to know your dad has a new girlfriend and that might be wht she sometimes says these things to you. Try talking to her, tell her that you love her and that dads new girlfriend will never be your ‘new’ mum! But also explain that you need to get on with her for your dads sake. Just try to remember not to go on about you dads girlfriend in front of your mum too much as this may make her feel that she isn’t good enough anymore. I’m sure that will help! Take care

i cant eat in front of my friends and havent been able to for three years, ive recently been making myself throw up after i eat. i feel so fat all the time im constantly thinking about it. help.

i am realy feeling run down with my life right now,but at night i say that i will be ok,but then the next day i struggle again!

Wat can i do?… Help me!…

rom Shs

hi, I’m a boy of 18 and for the last few Saturdays have been working from 2-5 at a cafe with a new girl, C. She is 17 and we get on really well- we joke, we laugh and we seem to be pretty similar with surprising similarities (family dynamics). We are both reasonably shy people though. I am really starting to like her but I don’t know what to do, I have never been in such a situation before and I don’t want to be too foreword or make things incredibly awkward. I don’t know how she really feels towards me as, like I said, she is quite reserved and quiet. I’m utterly unsure of what to do.

Hi there
It sounds like you both are beginning to feel comfortable with each other even tho you are both shy,why not ask her what she is doing one weekend and if she isnt doing anything invite her out for a coffee.If you would like help with your shyness come and have a private chat with one of the agony aunts im sure they will be able to help

Hi Izzy

It sounds like you have alot going on in your life right now and everything is all pulling you down.I feel this is the point where you need to take a step back and think about things.Firstly do you need all this going on in your life and secondly do you need a best friend who is behaving the way they are ? Sometimes we need to put ourselves first before our friends and i feel this is the time when you need to do this because others around you are pulling you down.You friend isnt thinking of you at all she is just thinking of herself,she is giving you all the details and causing you to worry .I feel you now have to be strong and stand up to her explain that you dont like the situations she is putting you in and that from now on anything she does she does on her own you dont want to know.You can still be friends but she needs to deal with the situations she gets herself in by herself.Then the less you know the less you get hurt.In the end she will get found out and then everyone will know what she is like and i feel she is the type of person that will say you knew everything and this will cause issues for you because people will want to know why you didnt say anything to them.And this is why i say you need to be strong you have to stand up to her and tell her what she does is her business and you dont want to hear of anything else she does,she has to do this on her own and except the consequences from these actions.
You do need help with your drinking and smoking this isnt how you want to be and you need to change this.Go to your doctor they will be able to advise you on how to quit smoking and slow down on the drinking.I hope this has helped you if you need any further advice please dont hesitate and contact myself or any other agony aunt on here

Marion

Hey agony aunt i need help!!! I have this friend however her boyfriend bullies me right in front of her. But she doesnt do anything about it. WHAT SHOULD I DO!!

Hi

You need to talk to your friend about this tell her how it makes you feel when her boyfriend does this.If she doesnt do anything about it or have a chat with him to stop then i think you need to find another friend.Come and have a chat with one of the agony aunts/uncle who will help you

I been seeing this guy for two years now, and everything has been great. Then this september I moved to London to go to law school and he is doing a sailing course on the isle of wight. So we have seen each other three times in three months which isn’t great but I thought this was ok. Much to my regret I checked his email one day and I found he has been messaging other girls telling them how much he had fancied them (even though one was a lesbian!) and how much he wanted others. I haven’t confronted him about the messages as I think it is bad of me to have read them. However I asked him if he wanted anybody else and he said no, just me and made a big deal of how I am the best thing in his life etc. Then a few days ago I checked his phone and he was at it again, messaging girls saying he wishes he was with them. He just always seems to have time for others and not me. I don’t know if I am being mad, or crazy. I don’t know whether I should confront him about the messages. He is all I think about all the time I am constantly worried, about our relationship. Please help me.

hi there

i have a problem , my boyfriend cheated on me for the last 4 months and im still in love with him but i also like someone else and to be honest i dont know what to do as im scared of telling the other guy how i feel and im not going back to ex boyfriend.. what would be the best thing to do.. should i wait a few months before i tell the guy how i feel?

Hi Jessica

I feel you have alot to talk about to your boyfriend,you seem to have alot of doubts about this relationship and need to know where you stand.You have to talk to him about your feelings and you need to own up about looking at his emails as this is just going to keep making you feel bad as you know it is something you shouldnt of done.You need to be open and honest with him and hopefully he will be the same with you.Come and have a chat with one of the agony aunts im sure they can help

Hi Megz

I feel the best would be for you to wait as this would give you time to think about what it is you truely want in your life and how to move forward to get this.If you tell this boy how you feel now he may think you are on the rebound so just take a little time to yourself and get your mind straight.The agony aunts are always here if you want to discuss this further

Hello steph

Firstly i feel the trying for another child needs to be put on hold for a while because you both have alot of talking to do.If he is just talking to the other girl at the moment then he isnt cheating but the way you are coming across as tho you dont trust him and feel he may be tempted.You have to sit down with him and tell him that trying for another baby is on hold and then discuss your feelings with him and ask him about the other girl.You have to find out what it is he wants before you try for another child.Please come and have a talk with one of the agony aunts they will be able to discuss this in private with you

I have (mentally) hurt someone very close to me, I got very angry and upset them greatly. They were reduced to tears. I instantly felt extreme guilt when this happened and I still do now. They have forgiven me and laugh about it now but I love them dearly, and they are very close to my heart. I still live in guilt, regret and shame. Please help. I am distraught

Hello Oli

You say they have forgiven you why havent you forgiven yourself? Talk to the person you have upset explain how you are feeling about the situation they can then put your mind at rest.Come and have a private chat with one of the agony aunts/uncles they will help you try and move forward with your friend

I recently finished my first term of my first year of college, I am meant to start college for the beginning of the second term today infact. For the past few weeks I have been feeling like I had made a bad decision choosing to attend this college, this time last year I was 100% sure that I had. chosen the perfect course for me. I am really having doubts now! I was aware that there would be alot of written course work however it being a practical course I didn’t expect the amount I am being given. I am also eeling guilty in the fact that my Dad has to pay for travel, some. £650 a year! I’m afraid if I drop out my Dad won’t forgive me. I am in desperate need of advice, do I drop out? It’s the chance of a lifetime this course but it’s really not how I expected. Please Help!

Hello Lewis

Thank you for contacting agony aunts, before you start thinking about dropping out talk to one of the tutors at the college and explain how you are feeling I feel they will help you through this.I think you would be surprised at how many people start to feel this way.Also have a chat with your dad be open with him tell him how you feel aslong as he knows you are trying to sort this he will understand.If you feel you cant talk to anyone about this come and have a private chat with one of the agony aunts/uncles they will advise which way to move along with this.

Hi,
Basically my family have made me chose between them and my boyfriend. They are not happy that I’m seeing a boy who is not part of my religion. Iv had to see him in secret for a year now and they found out, now I’m being told to chose. Am I wrong for following my heart and choosing my boyfriend

Please help

Hi

Thank you for contacting us,you dont say how old you are?.No you arent wrong for following your heart but then you must understand how your parents feel about your religion.Have you tried to talk to your parents about this and told them how you feel?.They may understand more than you think they will.Come and have a chat with one of the aunts/uncles they will be able to advise you some more

The trouble is my job, I have worked in this particularly industry for 10+ years and have worked hard at getting a masters degree in order to become employed as a full-time professional. I am working under a really narcissistic boss who hates me and I’m quite sure she has blocked all attempts at me finding professional appointment by turning everyone else against me. this has made my working life miserable I have been treated differently than anyone else would be and am suffering bullying treatment. This has been bad for my physical and mental health. working in this industry has been a lifelong dream for me that I am going to have to turn my back on, but the trouble is, how on earth do you do that and where do I go from here?

Hello Sistermidnight

Reading what you have written why should you turn your back on a lifelong dream,you know you can do so much more but you are allowing 1 person to stand in your way.You dont have to put up with bullying in the work place come and have a private chat with one of the aunts or uncles who will advise you and what you can do and where to go from here.

Hello, me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years but in a long distance relationship as he lives about 115 mile away from me. Not only is he the love of my life but he is also my best friend. He also has been saying the same and acting the same. We see eachother most weekends and what i thought, were very loved up. However, out of the blue, this weekend he has told me he wants to be alone and doesnt want to be in a relationship with me, even though a day before this he was saying how much he missed and loved me ?! It feels as though my whole world has been torn about and taken away from me at the click of the finger and i didnt even see it coming! What do i do ? Does he really not want to be with me and waste the connection? Should i try and win him back? how? PLEASE HELP!

Hello Blue,

The first thing you need to do is arrange a time and place to meet him face to face you have alot of questions you need to ask him . I feel he will blame the distance between you both but you do need to push for answers because until you have these you arent going to feel that you can move forward.Once you have discussed issues with him then you will be able to think if you need to win him back .Love doesnt just go in a week i feel there are other issues on his mind and that is what you have to ask and find out the reason why? Come and have a private chat with one of the aunts/uncles im sure this will help .

Hi there. I’ve been in love with someone for ages and I told them this after a while, and found out she doesn’t like me back. I’ve been trying to get over her for ages but I just can’t do it. I hardly speak to her and it really upsets me but I get nervous when I do try to talk to her. Please help!

Hello Mr D

It is always hard to accept that someone doesnt love us back but with time you will get over her and meet someone else.Trying to talk to her is just making it harder for you . Come and have a private chat with one of the agony aunts they will be able to give you advice on being nervous around her and trying to move on .

When I first met *Sam* I was seeing somebody else *Tom* I slept with Tom and realised that I didn’t want anything with him because I was falling for Sam, I didn’t tell Sam about what happened with Tom but he found out the next day anyway, and Sam always says even though we weren’t together he feels as if I cheated, so this made things complicated for Sam as he had trust issues and I had made myself seem like someone not to be trusted but Sam and I worked through it and started a relationship, we had only been together for about two weeks and on a night out Sam got very drunk and took another girl home, nothing happened between them as I was already at his house and when I saw her I packed all my stuff told him it was over and that I was leaving but he managed to convince me to stay and made the other girl leave. So from the start of our relationship we had both messed up, and given eachother reasons not to trust one another, however we have now been together for 9 months and he says he trusts me now and I try my best to trust him, but I can’t seem to get over it, I still get paranoid that he is going to cheat and whenever his phone goes off I think it is her even though I know it isn’t, I don’t know what to do?

Hello would like a little advice, I’ve been seeing this guy forabout just over a week now and when were together we act asif were a proper couple its great, but I don’t no how long to wait before he should at least talk about asking me to be his girlfriend cos he hasent mentioned anything like that at all???

Hi

It sounds like you both need to talk more about this to each other explain how you feel about it be open with him about your feelings ,he may be feeling the same as you do.Come and have a private chat with one of the agony aunts/uncle they will be able to help you with these feelings